Living the High Functioning Anxiety Life: When You Look Fine but Feel a Mess
- Linet Zmrutyan, LMFT
- Apr 22
- 3 min read
High functioning anxiety is a concept that's become more common in today's fast-paced world. Many people appear to have it all under control, but inside, they are battling intense thoughts and feelings of anxiety. Let's explore the characteristics, causes, and effective strategies for managing high functioning anxiety.
Understanding High Functioning Anxiety
High functioning anxiety is not a formal diagnosis but describes individuals who manage daily responsibilities while experiencing significant anxiety. A person could do really well at work, finishing tasks ahead of schedule, while simultaneously worrying about making mistakes. A study from the Anxiety and Depression Association of America found that approximately 18% of adults in the U.S. experience anxiety disorders, often by people characterized as high functioning.
People with high functioning anxiety might set goals and often exceed them. However, they feel anxious despite overcoming challenging. They might appear composed in public, but they may be overthinking and replaying conversations in their heads.
Let's talk about somethings people with high functioning anxiety might experience
Overthinking: You might spend hours analyzing a simple conversation, replaying every word in your mind.
Perfectionism: You may strive for unrealistic goals, constantly pushing yourself.
Restlessness: You might find it hard to sit still or give yourself time to rest.
Physical Symptoms: Many experience headaches or gastrointestinal issues, which stem from anxiety but often go unchecked. Research indicates that around 50% of people with anxiety suffer from these physical symptoms.
Common Triggers
Identifying triggers is crucial for developing coping strategies. Common sources of high functioning anxiety include:
Work and Academic Pressure: Tight deadlines and high expectations can lead to amplified anxiety.
Social Situations: Even ordinary social events can trigger anxiety.
Future Uncertainty: Worrying about what could happen, often in the form of "what if" thoughts.
Perceived Expectations: Feeling pressure to meet other people's expectations can lead to self-doubt and anxiety.
Coping Strategies
While high functioning anxiety can be hard to live with, healthy coping tools can make it more manageable:
Mindfulness and Meditation: Engaging in practices such as yoga and deep-breathing exercises can be really helpful.
Journaling: Expressing your thoughts in writing helps process emotions. Often, people reduce rumination by journaling because they no longer have to hold their thoughts in their heads.
Setting Realistic Goals: Breaking tasks into smaller, achievable steps can make the overall goal more manageable.
Seeking Support: Sharing your feelings with trusted friends or therapists can provide relief and new perspectives.
Physical Activity: Regular exercise can significantly help manage anxiety.
When to Seek Help
Many manage high functioning anxiety independently, but it can become overwhelming. Look for the following indicators:
Persistent Symptoms: If anxiety impairs daily life, work, or relationships despite self-management efforts.
Neglecting Self-Care: If anxiety leads to overlooking important personal needs like social connection, sleep, and nutrition.
Substance Abuse: Resorting to alcohol or drugs for relief signifies a need for professional intervention.
Feeling Overwhelmed: If anxiety feels unmanageable and interferes with enjoying life, it's time to seek help.
Embracing the High Functioning Anxiety Life
Living with high functioning anxiety isn't a sign of weakness. It reflects a unique way to process emotions, often leading to remarkable achievements. Accepting this aspect of yourself can open doors to deeper connections with others who share similar experiences.
Becoming aware of your anxiety marks the beginning of a transformative experience. Accepting your imperfections as part of being human is powerful. Celebrate your strengths and allow yourself breaks when needed.
Next time someone comments, "You look fine!" honor your experiences. Your inner world is just as vital and deserves attention.
If you or someone you know is dealing with high functioning anxiety, encourage them to seek support. Together, we can work towards a more peaceful and empowered mindset.
